It’s not always fun being a parent. Especially when that parent is me! As my husband and I mature in our Christian walk, we’ve re-evaluated and re-adjusted our values which directly impact our parenting. Two of our three children are technically adults now and it’s tough to balance that tightrope of knowing when to parent and knowing when to back down and let them figure things out on their own. Each of us have to experience ups and downs which results in making several mistakes along the way. It’s so very hard to sit back and “silently” watch my children make mistakes. But I know that they have to stumble and sometimes fall on their own to grow and strengthen in their individual walk with God. Let’s face it, if life were always happy and cheery, we wouldn’t need God so much other than to throw out a “Thank You” every now and then. It’s during those stumbles and falls when our faith and trust in God can grow and mature. And if we jump in and try to catch our kids when they stumble and fall, we’re shortchanging them in the long run by not allowing them to need God in their personal lives. We need to be careful as parents that we don’t insert ourselves as “God” in our kids’ lives. It would be so very easy to do but the results would be devastating.
At the end of the day, if we stick to our morals and beliefs about what is right and wrong and live that out in our own lives all we can hope for is that our kids are watching and will mirror that in their lives.
Will we stumble and fall along the way as parents? Absolutely, you can count on it! Will we make mistakes as parents? Absolutely! However, if we can say “I’m sorry” to our children and let them know we made a mistake and let them see humility and gentleness played out in our life, we’ll all be better off.
Here is God’s prescription for a strong family:
Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.